What does being a true friend mean? The definition can be hard to decipher at this age. Some people are just in your life to kick it, but at the end of the day, there should be a few people in your corner who you know you can rely on. If you’re struggling with what the qualities of a ride or die friend are keep reading.
You know what they say, “birds of a feather flock together.” In other words you are who you surround yourself with. While this may not be a hundred percent true, your friends do have a bigger impact on your decisions than you’d think. With this being said, you should surround yourself with people who will encourage you to make the right decisions. People who are thrilled for your achievements and applaud your reached goals. These are the people who don’t act threatened by your glow up. These are also the ones who sincerely mean it when they say, “Call me if you need anything,” or “I got you.” People who will hold you up, both in good times and in bad.
Honesty in a friendship is very important because as teens and young adults we make a lot of mistakes. Lectures coming from adults tends to get repetitive, so who is better to tell you the truth than your bestie who you know sincerely cares about you? Honesty in a friendship means telling your friend when they are wrong. It means being upfront no matter what the situation may be.
If your granny is anything like mine you may have heard this line every once in a while: “It’s not about what you say, it’s about how you say it.” Honesty, as stated in the last point, is important, but the delivery of your point is just as crucial. A true blue friend knows that it’s important to take into account their bestie’s insecurities, trigger points, and sensitivity level even in plain conversation. The last thing you should want to do is hurt your friend and a ride or die is well aware of this fact.
Good communication is key in any friendship, especially when it comes to the people you keep closest to you. Your bestie should be a good communicator who listens without interrupting. Good communicators ask questions so that they are able to get clarity. Good communicators also take body language cues and operate from a place of self-awareness and emotional intelligence. That friend who is present and in the moment with you when you’re interacting with each other is a keeper.
Fun To Be With
The best had to be saved for last! One of the biggest requirements in a ride or die friendship should be for you all to have fun, whether it be laughing at a memory or having inside jokes amongst yourselves. In order to have fun, though, your friends should provide you a non-judgemental safe space that you can let loose in and escape from your stress.
If you have at least one person in your life who meets all these qualifications then you know who your ride or die is. Period.
By Sullivan Anderson, Jones College Prep, Junior
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