Different people have different definitions of what a friend is. Personally, I think a friend is someone you know you can count on. I think a friend is someone you can laugh with and just enjoy being around, period. A friend should not bail on you or act different towards you when someone else is around either. Sometimes our friends don’t always live up to our basic expectations, but we give them a pass. Truth is, there are only so many passes you should be giving. Here are a few signs that you might need to say bye-bye to your so-called bestie.
You are the only one putting in the effort. Have you ever found yourself repeatedly being the first one to text or call? I have. If a person doesn’t at least text me once, then that means they don’t want to. Call me petty, but I don’t want to be the only one to care enough to talk to the other person. It’s irritating. If you feel like your friend doesn’t try to make the friendship work as much as you do, then you should talk to them. If nothing changes then you should probably end it.
Your “friend” has control issues. Does it seem like your friend tells you what to do a lot? There are some people who are obsessed with the idea of being Queen B. He or she tries to make sure everyone else is under them, including the people they are close too. Sometimes people have friends who lowkey control them, but the “friend” doesn’t even realize it. Some people get so excited about the idea of having a friend that they don’t realize how toxic this type of relationship really is.
Your “friend” attracts a lot drama. I like to hear about gossip just like any other teenage girl, but sometimes it can get overwhelming. There is a fine line between telling me something just so I can know about it, and involving me in the drama. As a friend I will listen to your problems, but don’t bring your drama to me. I don’t want people coming up to me asking me if I did or said something about them. I don’t know about you, but I am DRAMA FREE, and I would like it to stay that way.
Sometimes, we have friends who indirectly show us they are not worthy of a friendship. Ultimately, it’s up to you to determine who your real friends are.
By Desiree Brownlow, Freshman, Brooks College Prep