Sometimes relationships don’t last forever. It’s sad but true, and unfortunately, not an easy pill to swallow. Break-ups can be really hard and take a long time to get over, but it’s not the end of the world. Take it from somebody who’s been through a recent break-up. You’ve probably heard it a million times but, you will be okay. Here’s some advice that will make the recovery process a little easier.
Let it out
If you’re sad or angry you might not want to face those emotions. You might want to make it seem like everything is okay. But faking it till you make it after a break-up isn’t the way to go. The only way for you to really heal and get over this is dealing with pain and sadness. You have every right to feel the way you feel. I know when I’m going through a break-up, those first few days I cry like a freaking baby. I feel horrible during this period, but after that, I feel like a new person because I let it out.
Don’t Isolate Yourself
Probably one of the worst things you can do at a time like this is be alone. Surround yourself with people that you know, love, and care about you like friends and family. They have your best interest and will always be there for you during this sad time. It might seem easy to just mope in your feelings by yourself—and it isn’t a terrible thing, but don’t stay in that mindset. Being alone just gives your mind the time to wonder and drift to all the bad thoughts. Keep yourself busy. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Join the rest of the world again and start to feel like your old self with your loved ones in your corner.
Distance Yourself From Your Ex
You’ve got to get out of the habit of depending on your ex. It’s going to take time for you to get to the point where you can even think about being friends again. Sticking around him or her is only going to make the process of healing take longer. If you know you’re going to be tempted to contact them, block them and keep them blocked. In fact delete their number. Don’t reach out to them at all.
Don’t Lose Yourself
Before you were in the relationship you were you, and I know it might seem like this relationship was the biggest part of your life, but it wasn’t. Things will be different and off for a while, but you can’t let that keep you off your square for too long. Don’t let the lack of the relationship change you from being who you were before. Just because you had a connection with your ex and he or she seemed to become a part of you, doesn’t mean you have to lose yourself because you lost them.
Don’t Jump Into Another Relationship
Heartbreak can make you do some dumb things, but don’t let one of those things be a new fling. It might seem easy to catch that rebound, but it’s not fair to either party. One, it doesn’t allow you to heal the proper way, and two, you’re playing with someone else’s emotions for your own selfish reasons. You only want them so you aren’t lonely.
Do Things That Make You Happy
Whether it’s crying, listening to sad music, eating chocolate, or destroying all the things you have from the ended relationship, do whatever is going to make you happy and contribute to the healing process. Everybody is different, so everyone will have different ways of coping. I like to write about how I’m feeling (as you can clearly see) because it relieves my mind of all the craziness that’s happening.
Dealing with a breakup isn’t going to be an overnight process and that’s something really important to keep in mind. Trying to rush your healing process is only going to cause you to do more backtracking and become stagnant in your healing process. It’s perfectly fine to not be okay for a while, but you have to get back on your feet. Don’t let this one thing hold you down for too long. Everything will get better and you’ll okay.
By Cierra Lemott, Junior, Brooks College Prep
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