My forever FLOTUS is sparkling up the trail again y’all. Earlier this month, at this year’s 25th Essence Festival the queen herself, Mrs. Michelle Obama, graced an audience with yet another eloquent speech. And we all know that when she speaks, people listen. (Can you guys tell how much I love her?)
Gayle King interviewed Obama as one of the keynote speakers at the event, and she did not disappoint. As imagined, she talked about her new book Becoming, but her focus did not solely stay on her recent accomplishment, but more so on her life lessons.
Obama perked up some ears when she discussed the struggles and rewards of marriage. In her book, she explained that she and Barack did in fact partake in marriage counseling. Before they became the world’s relationship goals they had to put in some work with one another. She addressed the women in the audience and expressed to them that marriage is a choice, and with that choice they need to pick someone who is their equal and vice versa for the men.
“Marriage is somewhat like sports. When picking your team you want your members to be strong. I do not want a weak player on my team nor does he, but sometimes we accept weak because it’s easy. Be cautious of the man or woman who wants just the easy person, the person who is not going to force them to grow. The person who is not going to hold them accountable.”
Be cautious of the man or woman who wants just the easy person, the person who is not going to force them to grow. The person who is not going to hold them accountable. -Michelle Obama
I think it’s safe to say she chose an acceptable teammate. Though not all of America agreed with her husband’s presidency, Mrs. Obama is still impressed with the way he handled the job. She understood the level of intelligence and strength to hold a position such as that one, and she stood by him and continues to stand by him through it all.
Their example as a couple was a driving relationship goal theme for several years, and it still is. More often times than not this current generation wants the success without the fight. Obama stressed that her relationship is only a force to be reckoned with because of how much they fought and continue to fight for each other.
Finding your teammate means finding your equal, finding that someone who is willing to go to bat for you the same way you are for them, and it is never meant to be easy. It’s meant to be tough, but within the struggle is where the beauty lies.
By Abena Bediako, University of Missouri-Columbia Alumni
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