When it comes to dating, most people have a “type” or particular kind of person that they go for. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Everyone has their cup of tea. The issue comes when people put down those who aren’t their “cup of tea” to uplift those that are. There’s a pretty fine line between preference and prejudice.
A preference is defined by Dictionary.com as “that which is preferred; choice.” Like I said, that’s cool. Nothing wrong with wanting one thing over another. Despite this, you shouldn’t feel the need to talk down on something just because he or she isn’t what you typically like.
I’ve seen too many times on social media where men (Black men a lot of the time) say that they like *insert type of women that aren’t Black women here* because Black women *insert negative, unnecessary comment to tear down Black women here*. It’s honestly played out. I won’t say that it hasn’t happened before, but I’ve never seen anyone torn down like Black women. Why should any characteristics of one group dictate why you date other groups? This is no longer a preference. It’s a prejudice.
Dictionary.com defines prejudice as “an unfavorable knowledge opinion or feeling formed beforehand or without knowledge, thought, or reason.” This is exactly what the tearing down of Black women to uplift other women is. In lots of instances where Black women are desired, it’s usually lighter-skinned women who receive the praise while darker-skinned women bare all of the negative and ignorant comments.
Moral of the story, there’s a big difference between having a preference and being prejudiced. There’s no issue with liking who and what you like, but liking one thing shouldn’t lead to bashing another.
By Cierra Lemott, Freshman, Columbia College Chicago
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