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Remembering Your Dad on Father’s Day

Journey Powell (in yellow) shares a tender moment with her father Jeffrey Powell and her two sisters. Jeffrey passed away on December 8, 2018.

Not only is June the month that marks the official start of summer or the month-long celebration of the LGBTQ+ community and the promotion of equal rights, but June is widely recognized as the month to acknowledge and show appreciation for our fathers. Don’t tell me you forgot. If so, you still have time to conjure something up that I’m sure your dad will love– whether it’s a handmade card or a simple mug, it’s the small gestures that mean the most.

But, this is not an article for last minute gifts, but a guide to those experiencing grief this Father’s day. Loss and grief are never easy experiences, especially during worldwide holidays where the acknowledgment of others just highlights the absence of your own. If you’re grieving this year, this is for you.You can be included in the festivities, and although it won’t be the same, soon you’ll learn to appreciate and find the beauty in honoring what you’ve lost on monumental days that serve as a reminder.

This will be my sixth Father’s Day without my father, Jeffrey Powell. In all honesty, you won’t ever NOT miss your day, especially on the third Sunday of June. But, the best thing to do is to let the emotions become and overcome you, let them run their course because light will shed at the end. Whether it be through a sign sent in the way the wind brushes your cheek or how your grandmother makes you laugh with old stories. There is always a rainbow after it rains. I am most connected with those I’ve lost through nature, especially my father. Which is why I always find myself outside, underneath a tree, or taking a walk by myself on Father’s Day.

Do you remember how you’d spend time with your dad? You should honor him by doing your favorite things together. For example, If you all spent a lot of time bowling or shopping, take yourself or you and someone you care for, shopping and bowling, with your father in mind. Doing these things over the years has helped me significantly cope with loss.

Another way to celebrate Father’s Day is by celebrating him in the ways you did when he was here. Write a letter to him, have a conversation with him at his grave, to an urn, or to the universe, whichever applies to you. Call his friends or brothers just to hear their voices and wish them a Happy Father’s Day.

It’s daunting and can be the hardest thing you’ve ever known, but I guarantee, keeping him in mind while you put a smile on other’s faces and inevitably his spirit’s face will bring an internal joy like none other to yours. There’s nothing like feeling how proud you make someone who is no longer here with you.

Here is to hoping you make the best of this day.

 

By Journey Powell, Freshman, Spelman College

Instagram: journeyaliah

 

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Written by Journey

Hiii, I’m Journey. I love to model and write poetry. My favorite movie series is Harry Potter.

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