Cierra Lemott 
Everyone always talks about all the negative things in relationships to look out for, but what about the positive things? Instead of being so pressed about finding the negative things about a person, let’s search for the green flags in your friendships and relationships that indicate these are good people to hang on to.
- Respecting Boundaries
Everyone has their own boundaries and lines they aren’t willing to cross or have crossed. When someone respects those boundaries instead of trying to break them, they’re a keeper.
- Being Supportive
I’ve experienced many platonic and romantic relationships where I felt that I couldn’t celebrate my accomplishments and wins with a person because there was lowkey (and sometimes obvious) jealousy. Surround yourself with people who are just as excited for your wins as you are.
- Ability to Disagree
You and your friends and partner aren’t always going to agree. No one has the same thought process and opinion. Being able to disagree but still look past your differences is essential. A disagreement doesn’t always have to lead to a falling out.
- Being Honest
If your friends aren’t being honest with you, then they aren’t really your friends. Sometimes it’s difficult to tell or accept the truth but it’s definitely necessary. It is important to have a friend who can always be honest with you, even when you don’t want to hear what they have to say in the moment.
- Things Aren’t One-sided
I’m sure we’ve all had a relationship where you didn’t feel like your love and energy were being reciprocated. On the other hand, there are also relationships where things don’t feel so one-sided. Those are the bonds you need to hold close and don’t let go of because they’re difficult to find. You shouldn’t be pulling all the weight and making everything work all alone.
- Your Feelings Are Validated
A huge red flag in any relationship is someone invalidating your feelings. You feel the way you do for a reason. Who is anyone else to try and take that away from you? Surround yourself with people who are able to disagree while simultaneously seeing where you’re coming from and validating your feelings.
It’s so easy to find the negative things in people. Let’s start actively looking for the positive things that someone has to offer in a relationship. If you have friends or partners that exhibit green flags, hold them tight.
By Cierra Lemott, Senior, Columbia College Chicago
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