First and foremost, if you’re my friend, you know that I love you dearly and that this article is not to shade any of you, but it’s important that we all keep it real with one another. I’m sure that most of you reading this have someone in your life that you call your friend. Some of you all probably have friends that you have known for years and you’d probably do any and everything for them. I’m not writing this to tell you that you shouldn’t do that because it’s important to be good to your friends. Thing is, there is a difference between being good to your friends versus letting them control certain aspects of your life. Here’s what I mean:
ONE: Don’t cancel your plans just because they can’t go.
Personally, I would usually cancel my plans to accommodate my friends, and some of you may also be this way. Maybe you all had planned to go to the mall, but your girl ended up canceling on you at the last minute because she didn’t do her homework on time (or whatever). But the thing is, just because your friend can’t go doesn’t mean you need to stay home. You should still go. Stop allowing your friends to ruin your opportunity to live your best life. Sometimes you all can do stuff together, sometimes you can’t.
TWO: Stop allowing your friends to pick and choose who you talk to.
You could all be missing out on the love of your life just because of your bestie! So what if your friend doesn’t think that you’re crush is cute; that’s not their business. What you like might not be what they like; therefore, if you’re feeling that crush, stay with them! You do not need your bestie’s final approval when it comes to your love life. Besides, your friends are only allowed to know what you want them to know. Let that sink in for a minute.
THREE: Don’t pick up on your friends bad habits.
At one time or another, we have all experienced having a friend at some point in our life that was a Negative Nancy. This same person might be that friend that’s super loud and wants to get into it with everybody because they are always gossiping and expect you to join in on the gossip too. It gets pretty old right? We’ve all been there, but it’s important that you not let your friend’s bad habits of being negative hinder you from being positive. If you’re the reversed type, remain that way. It’s not your job to fight all of your friends battles.
I’m not telling you to stop being a good friend, because that’s always important. What is more important is to always be in control of making your own decisions.
Trinity Bishop, Sophomore, Southern Illinois University
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