The Height of Romance

Zendaya and Tom Holland at the premiere of Spider-Man: No Way Home. The couple has people talking about the role height plays in a relationship.

The Hollywood romance between Spider-Man: No Way Home actors Zendaya and Tom Holland has got people talking about dating and what role height plays into it. The real question is, how did this stereotype even come about?  Is it wrong to have a woman or girl feel as if it is abnormal to date someone who is shorter than her? Or is it wrong to have a man or a boy feel as if it is abnormal to go out with a woman taller than him?

According to CTV News, 55% of women prefer taller men. Amaurianna Price, a senior at Simeon Career Academy is one of those young women who falls into that percentile. “Going with a guy that’s shorter than me would be pretty awkward, as I wouldn’t even feel protected at all,” said Price.

Serena Thompson, a senior at Morgan Park High School, agreed with Price. “Short men just aren’t my preference. I like to feel protected.”  Why do women/girls feel as though they lack protection due to their significant other’s shortness of height? According to Daily, “The masculine ability to offer physical protection is clearly connected to the gender stereotype of men as protectors. And in a society that encourages men to be dominant and women to be submissive, having the image of tall men hovering over short women reinforces this value.”

I can admit that I am a person who adapted to the toxic stereotype of not wanting to date someone who was shorter than me. With a boy being shorter than me… I think the dominance is on me. Also, I’m 5’3” and I’m a hugger, but hugging would be weird if I were to date someone shorter than me. Seems pretty awkward.  I would have to look down to gain eye contact, which would make me the dominant person.

Other females presented a different viewpoint about the topic of dating shorter men. Sierra Lindsey, a junior at King College Prep stated, “From my experience, it seems as though shorter guys are cocky and ignorant. They intentionally bashed me about being shorter because of their lack of confidence.” This awakens society’s toxic habits of bringing other people down to cope with their insecurities.

Bringing another person down is a no-go. However, Laila Monroe, a junior at Chi-Arts High School, proposed an argument stating, “I actually prefer a boy shorter than me. I’m a model and in pictures I look pretty good with shorter guys.”

CTV News reported that 37% of men have a preference for shorter women. Maurion Shelly, a 6’5” senior at Gwendolyn Brooks stated, “I am very tall myself, so a girl taller than me would make me uncomfortable as a man.”

I’m pretty sure a lot of men can relate which rips their dominant role and the nature of security in the relationship. Nevertheless, Tim Taiwo who is 6’2” and also a senior at Gwendolyn Brooks, thinks differently. He stated, “I wouldn’t mind dating someone taller than me, my kids need to go to the league.”

Brooks junior Andre Sutton, who is 5’4”, doesn’t let how short or tall a person is be the deciding factor when it comes to picking a partner. “Differing heights don’t affect how attractive someone is to me, so differing heights isnt in my decision in dating someone.”

There are many different viewpoints on height and romance. What is your preference on dating someone who is taller or shorter than you? Let us know below with an emoji.


By Dasia Garner, Senior,  Gwendolyn Brooks College Prep


Written by Dasia Garner

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