Virginity: When Should You Lose It?

Personally, I think virginity is for you to define and give or lose. My parents don’t have the same idea as I do though. They think sex should be saved until marriage and I can understand why. In many ways and to many people, having sex for the first time is sacred and should be done with that special someone. Marriage is supposed to assure you that you’ve found this person. I, and much of my generation, consider saving yourself until marriage an outdated practice. Many of my friends have either already lost their virginity or are ready to. Sex before marriage has become such a normalized experience among teens and we can thank the media for this.

This isn’t to say that losing your virginity should happen as a teenager. If you value saving yourself for marriage that’s personal to you. Keeping or losing one’s virginity is a topic often influenced by peer pressure, which is why it is important to approach the decision at your own pace. I posted an open response to about this topic on my Instagram to which the majority of my peers replied that losing your virginity should happen when you’re ready and able to make rational and meaningful decisions. Others gave a number, usually 16+, as the age to lose your virginity because you are becoming more independent in body and mind at that time. Here are a few responses:

“I feel like it’s less of an age thing and more of when you know you’re ready. When you’re younger you’re more bound to make decisions that you’ll regret in the future, so I think you should wait until you’re at least 16-17 and if you still don’t feel ready, then wait longer.” –Taylor, 16

“I feel like you should lose your virginity when you’re ready to lose your virginity.” –Kyele, 20

“Marriage. I lost my virginity at 14. I wish I would’ve waited for a connection I felt was solid.” –Kenton, 21.

Basically, what I am trying to say is that there is no “proper” age to lose your virginity. It’s not a race and the opportunity isn’t going to go anywhere with time. Just be sure you’ve considered the risks and most importantly that you are ready and safe before you make the decision.


By Kelbe Nails, Sophomore, Whitney Young

Instagram: @k3lba3


Written by TrueStar Staff

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