My first semester at Beloit College has come to a close, and soon a new one will begin. I’ll admit that I’ve learned so much, and I’m not just talking about academics. Sure, with lessons comes tears, heartbreak, and disappointments, but I wouldn’t change any of it. With that being said, here are some things that I learned within the first few months of college that I wish someone would’ve taught me before I stepped on my campus.
Learn to say NO: I’m not saying everyone is bad and everyone will use you, but learn to say no. If you have a golden heart like myself, don’t let anyone take advantage of your kindness. Sometimes you have to be selfish.
Choose your friends and significant others wisely: Don’t open up to people so easily and quickly. You can’t trust everyone. A friendship should never be one sided. If you find yourself always supporting them, helping them, and giving them things they need, be friends at a distance. Don’t drain yourself trying to make friends with people who only like you on conditional terms.
Don’t catch feelings: Hasn’t your mother ever told you not to wear your heart on your sleeve? Don’t lose yourself in the process trying to chase and please someone that wants to keep you a secret or just use you until you have nothing left to give. Get to know each other as friends first because you never know what the other person’s intentions are. You’ll be distracted by the perfect image of the person you made in your head. If he/she likes to argue, play games, and constantly makes you cry then move on. Fall back if you are not feeling valued.
Learn to be on your own and take care of yourself: Self-care is key. After a long day of studying and writing papers, unwind. Catch up on your favorite shows. Talk to your friends back home. Apply a face mask. You deserve it. Learn to be comfortable being on your own. Everyone isn’t going to always be there for you like you are for others.
It’s okay to cry: There are gonna be rainy days, but without rain, plants don’t grow. These bad times are lessons that you can grow from.
Seek help: Whatever college campus you’re on, there are resources available to you. If you’re going through a tough time and need someone to talk to or even if you’re struggling in one of your classes reach out to a tutor. Most of the time, the help you need is free 99.
College is a fun experience, but at the same time, it brings great lessons outside the classroom or lecture hall. I’m not telling you guys these things to scare you or discourage you. I’m saying these things to prepare you because believe it or not, college is not for the weak. Trust me on this. Take notes so you don’t make the same mistakes I did.
Let the second semester begin.
By Jada Daniel, Freshman, Beloit College