It’s about that time of year where everyone is flustered no matter what your status is. The countdown is on to Valentine’s Day and the social media posts are already beginning to pile up. Whether you’re single, taken, or figuring it out, Valentine’s Day can be a very stressful time of year for morale. What should I get my boyfriend/girlfriend? Should I splurge on myself this year because I’m not boo’d up? How do I show my love for my boyfriend/girlfriend if I’m sitting around by myself in a pandemic? Let’s take a breather and think about what it is we can do.
Me, Myself & I
If you’re ending up single again this year for Valentine’s Day, don’t worry about all the couples that you’ll see. Maybe stay off social media and focus on yourself. Take a few days to take care of you. Get a waxing. Maybe a pedicure, a manicure, a facial, and any other physical treatment you’ve been putting off. Spoil yourself as if somebody were spoiling you in a relationship. Oh, and have fun. Sometimes you need a little pick-me-up after a long period of stress.
For my people in relationships, it kind of depends on your relationship’s integrity. Here are some things you should keep in mind: Is he or she the type of person to value how thoughtful a gift or an exchange is, or are they the type to value a gift of high expense more?
It’s important to remember two things when you’re dating someone. The first is that in a relationship, one day shouldn’t hold enough power to dictate the level of love one person has for the other. Love in a relationship should be consistent. The second thing to note is that the price tag on a gift or activity shouldn’t be representative of how much you love that person. Whether you spend $2 or even $1000, the only thing that should matter is the fact that you love your partner and they love you.
And lastly, for all of the people who are floating in that awkward space in between, you could do something too. Now, this may be a little blunt, but this is the best way to put it: Figure it out. If you’re in some sort of flirtatious relationship with somebody and you haven’t locked it down, then do that. Make sure that the other person in your life knows that you want to be exclusive. If anything, this could be the best gift for them for Valentine’s Day because it marks the date that you entered a new stage together.
Remember no matter what your status is–single, taken, or undecided–Valentine’s Day can become a day filled with joy, stress, or even depression. All you need to know is that V-Day is what you make out of it. Have fun, express yourselves and secure your happiness.
By Jayden Hammond, Junior, GCE Lab School