So I know that meeting the parents can be tough. This particular event creates all types of anxiety because well, you don’t know what your boyfriend or girlfriends parents will think about you. Rather you’re contemplating on having your parents meet your partner or rather your partner is talking to you about possibly meeting their parents, this all leads us to the million-dollar question: When is the right time to actually meet the parents?
First and foremost, let me start by saying this: You shouldn’t introduce your parents to every single person you decide to talk to unless you guys are exclusively talking or if you guys consider yourselves to be in a relationship. Family is important, which is why it’s important to not just bring anybody around your mama and daddy. My advice is to actually get to know a person before you move on to meeting someone’s family. Give yourself at least three months of talking to someone and then decide to yourself rather or not you believe that they’re ready to take things to another level.
In fact, let me let you in on a little secret. If you’re unsure about introducing your partner to your parents because you don’t know if they’re quite ready, have them meet your friends. I am aware that some problems may happen with this. I understand that some of us probably won’t even bother with having our friends meet our boyfriend or girlfriend because well, some of our friends are more interrogative than our parents. But hear me out on this. To some of us, our friends are like our family, so if they pass with meeting your friends, I see no reason why they shouldn’t pass with meeting your parents.
Try not to overthink the process because it’s not as terrifying as it may seem. It’s important to always be yourself and never put up a front. At the end of the day, it’s always important to remember that someone has to like you for you, not for who you pretend to be. There isn’t a certain time frame on when it’s the right time to meet the parents. You’ll know when better than someone else. So my advice to you is to just breathe in and out, don’t wait too long or move too quickly and always just be yourself.
By Trinity Bishop, Freshman, Southern Illinois University
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