Last weekend, my school had our senior prom, and it was both my first and only time experiencing such an event. It took months of preparation: Getting the right dress, the accessories, planning hair appointments, figuring out how to do my makeup, not to mention planning out a schedule for the actual day of. Needless to say, it was a lot. But there was one thing I was missing: A date.
For a while, I was really worried whether or not I would have a date to prom. I wasn’t sure whether someone would ask me, or if I should build up the courage to ask someone else. I wasn’t in a relationship, and it seemed like everyone around me was already taken or just not interested. How was I going to have my perfect teen movie prom night with nobody to buy me a corsage or drive me home at night?
But eventually, I stopped worrying. I decided to simply go with a group of my friends. And it turned out to be much, much better than I expected. In fact, I preferred it over having a date. And here’s why.
There’s no pressure to be perfect
So many times, having a date means you need everything to be perfect, not just for you, but for them too. You might feel pressure to get the perfect pictures or have the perfect dance moves. But with your friends, you can just be yourself! They already know who you are — and you can be as silly or as outgoing as you want. You’ll have a lot more fun without the worry of being what someone else wants.
You aren’t tied to one person the whole night
When you have a date to prom, there tends to be an expectation that you are only there for that one person and that you have to do everything with them. You might not get to do all the things that you want to do. For instance, what if you want to take a picture with a group of friends but your date is too busy dancing to their favorite song? Lucky for me, I didn’t have to worry about this. I was able to bounce between groups of people. When one group was doing something fun, I hung out with them for a while, and when things slowed down I was able to go to a different set of friends. It kept the energy going all night and I wasn’t held back by anyone!
The pictures are more fun with more people
Honestly, prom pictures can be kind of boring sometimes. How many pictures have you seen of a couple awkwardly standing together in front of a bush outside their house? But with friends, you’re free to let your creativity shine instead of posing with someone you only kind of know. With more people, there are more options. And, you can take fun and silly photos with your friends that reflect your true selves.
Let’s be real. Prom is EXPENSIVE. Especially when you’re me and you buy a $200 dress, not counting all the accessories, makeup, and appointment costs. So making the night as cheap as you can is definitely a win – and prom dates can rack up. Buying two tickets, buying them a corsage, getting a fancy limo for just two people? Not worth it. You’re better off spending the time with friends instead of spending all that money.
When you’re tired, you can go on your own time
At the end of the night, having a date will be a lot less stressful. You can go when you want. You won’t worry about if they still want to have one last dance, or if they need a ride home. And you especially won’t have to worry about the after-prom hookups every movie seems to have. After a long night, I was glad to just stay in and relax while eating ice cream and watching movies. Because honestly? Some of the best fun is when you’re comfortable being with yourself.
By Caileigh Winslade, Senior, ChiArts
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