If you haven’t been keeping up with news recently let me direct your attention to The Red Table Talk. On this recent episode Willow Smith speaks out about identifying as polyamorous. The 20-year old singer-songwriter is joined by her mother Jada Pinkett Smith and her grandmother Adrienne Banfield Norris, aka ‘Gammy,’ as she attempts to break down how she arrived at this decision while also educating others on what a polyarmous relationship is. Before I dive into this episode let me make this clear the definition of a polyarmous relationship is engaging in multiple intimate relationships at the same time. Intimate on an emotional and physical level if you choose. According to the site verywellmind.com, people who are polyamorous can be heterosexual, lesbian, gay, or bisexual, and relationships between polyamorous people can include combinations of people of different sexual orientations.
The episode opens with Willow explaining how she arrived at the conclusion that she was polyarmous and why she didn’t really like the idea of monogamous relationships. “With polyamory, I feel like the main foundation is the freedom to be able to create a relationship style that works for you and not just stepping into monogamy because that’s what everyone around you says is the right thing to do.”
Willow is met with criticism from Gammy who bluntly states that she feels as though this way of being has more to do with sex than anything else. She further explains with her own marriage, how while her and husband had a discussion about polyamory, they reached a decision to not do it. The importance in any relationship is being able to have those serious and sometimes tough discussions.
As the episode progresses, there is a polyamourus couple that is brought in and another polyamourus woman that is brought in. They all give their input on their experiences and what they hope to show people about polyamourus relationships. One of the guests, Gabrielle Smith, explained that with non-magnomous relationships, the face of it is always white people and never Black people or other POC so she hopes to serve as an advocate and educator for it.
This was a very interesting episode and what I appreciate the most is the education that is being discussed whether it be how boundaries are set in those relationships or the serious conversations that have to be had. I think it’s important to watch, so if you haven’t tune in yet, click here!
By Monique Petty-Ashmeade, Sophomore, DePaul University