It’s happened to all of us. We have this amazing friendship with someone, a friendship that looks like it can never fail, and then something happens and y’all stop talking to each other. Someone ends up blocked or exposed to something and it is just horrible. But how do we fix this? Well, I’m going to tell y’all my story of a friendship I had and how it healed.
Me and (I’ll refer to her as AV) were amazing friends for over a year and then it all went downhill one day. She was obsessed with this boy because he was one of her only friends for a long time and he was her first boyfriend. Long story short, he was clearly taking advantage of her and was an extremely toxic presence in her life. One day she called me crying at 3:00 a.m. because she was so heartbroken that he broke up with her and got with another girl. I told her the usual things I told her: he was bad for her, etcetera, etcetera. But suddenly, she snapped and went off on me and… well, I went off on her too because she was talking about my girlfriend at the time and I wanted to defend her. So basically, we argued and she blocked me.
How And Why Did We Start Talking Again?
About two months later, I asked AV’s friend if he could tell her to hit me up. I asked him to do this because she was and still is the best friend I ever had, and I missed having someone reliable to talk to often. She hit me up about a week later, we talked things out, and became friends again. She accepted me back because I was one of the few people who had actually cared about her a lot and she was pretty miserable without someone talking to her that would actually give her advice and comfort.
Our apology was pretty awkward and emotional. We talked and basically had an emotional fest of apologies and catching up and whatever. But we ended up being a lot happier afterwards and were just happy to have each other back again. We had a strong friendship again for months afterwards.
How Are We Now?
Sadly, we don’t speak to each other as much, but it isn’t because of an argument like last time. We’re still friends and we both are still down for each other when we need to be, but it isn’t to the degree of before. Life happens. Things are a little different, but it is a big improvement from hating each other.
Honestly, if you want to glue back a friendship, you guys just need to talk it out. Being honest and real with someone is often all you need to do. So if you miss someone, and can hit them up, go for it. You can likely get better results than you think.
By Hugo Vazquez, Senior, Brooks College Prep
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