We all know how complicated relationships be can. No relationship is easy-peasy-lemon- squeezy, but feeling like you care more about your relationship than your significant other should never be something you have to deal with. If you’ve been feeling like, between the two of you, you’re the one putting in the most time and effort and getting nothing in return, you might be in a one-sided relationship. Here are some signs that could let you know you’re the one “carrying” your relay:
You’re always there for them. If they call you up and tell you to meet them somewhere, no matter what you might have going on, you’re right there for them. You’ll choose to spend time with your boo over anyone. Maybe this isn’t a problem for some people, but if you find yourself doing this and they’re not doing the same for you, this could be an issue.
Their needs come before yours. Caring about your significant other is never a problem, but it becomes a problem when you start to put their happiness above yours. If you find yourself doing stuff for them to make them happy, but they aren’t doing the same for you, then you might want to talk to them about it. Bae should care about your happiness and needs as much as you care about his or hers.
You have to initiate everything. Whether it’s conversation or hanging out, you are the reason why it happens. It could be as little as you always having to say sorry first even if the problem isn’t your fault. This can get draining if you’re constantly initiating everything.
You constantly feel stressed out. All stress isn’t bad stress, but if you constantly feel like you’re always stressing out about your partner, or the problems in your relationship then this is a bad sign. If you feel like bae is too nonchalant about y’alls relationship this could be a huge sign that you’re the only one fighting to stay together.
You always have to remember, everyone doesn’t have the same heart as you. You cannot expect everyone to put the effort in that you would, especially if they don’t care. If you feel like you are the only one fighting for your relationship maybe it’s time to re-evaluate some things ASAP.
By Veronica Ruiz, Senior, Lane Tech